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Write about a time when you didn’t take action but wish you had. What would you do differently?

Writing about a time when I didn’t take action but wish I had can be a long list or a short one. I think I will keep it short.

Not taken that last drink

When your a young single female living alone you can be smart or you can be naive. One keeps you safe, the other sets you up for a world where you wake up somewhere you never meant to be. Feeling a way about yourself no one should ever have to feel. After that night, I never became that intoxicated again. After that night, I never trusted the same way again.

This was the late 1980’s early 1990’s. I was a wild child, so I am sure my friends who left me at that party thought I would be okay, and would make it home safe. I made it home. I never spoke about it. He and I never spoke again. I spent the rest of my time in college making sure none of my friends were ever to drunk to consent. Just didn’t know that was what it was back then.

I made sure my daughter’s knew the difference between buzzed, drunk, and dangerously intoxicated before they left home. Did the same for my son. What I would do differently if I could go back in time, is watch out for younger me. Not let my guard down, and communicated before I started drinking that I wanted someone I trusted to get me home that night. The guy in question was to drunk to consent, I was to drunk to consent. So We both lost and learned something that night. Know your limits, and No means NO,